Book of the Nazarite: Letters to my Daughter 
July 4th, 2019
My Dearest Em,
I write you today, after my 2nd day on “El Camino”. The trip has been as tough as I expected, and this makes me happy. While arduous and burdensome, it has been well within the parameters of my mental preparations, in lieu of any physical ones.
Which brings me into today’s discussion — Sustainability. Throughout your life you will be presented with different “opportunities”. I use quotations in the prior sentence because it is not be the most traditional definition of the word “opportunities”; nevertheless, I believe it to be an accurate one.
These will be opportunities for you to derive pleasure or “wellbeing”, wether instantly occurring (albeit, surely correspondingly spanning) or long-term lasting. Most likely a spot somewhere in between.
These opportunities to derive wellbeing, rarely come without some implication.
In my humble opinion, you should always be driven to maximize your long-term wellbeing. This doesn’t necessarily preclude you from engaging in short-term self-gratifying habits (i.e. vices), but it very often does. Ultimately, what distinguishably separates an adult from a child (or an ill-functioning adult), is wether he/she can independently manage these or not.
Adults are meant (in my opinion) to be self-sustaining. Don’t get me wrong, having a support circle you can count on in times of need is key. But, if you are consistently unable to sustainably take care of yourself, as an adult; then, you are (in the simplest definition) a burden.
Even if this is due to a disability, physical or otherwise, the above is true (to be clear: the circumstances/nature of someone’s disability are neither said person’s fault, nor can it be reasonably expected that one with said disabilities become self-sustaining. Life, far too often, is not fair.).
Neverthless, an adult should strive, within the best of his/her abilities, to not be a burden. Burdens are…[observably] burdensome to bear. Which in itself can be defined as “undesirably restrictive”. Thus, something we should forcibly strive to spare others from.
This may sound crude and/or harsh, but you need to internalize this, if you are to understand what I am trying to convey here.
Sustainability is about being able to manage yourself. In everything. Wether its study habits, party nights, relationships… literally every decision you make.
You must always ask yourself, truly*, is this sustainable? Can I do this for as long as needed without throwing my life out of balance? If the answer is No, than your headed to a crash, and while crashes may sound fun or exiciting, they are also prone to failure, pain, and most likely collateral damage. You may be willing to take that on, but be advised that you do so while bearing full responsability for your actions. Which means that whatever happens is on You!
I finish this letter with the following. Life is full of crashes, most avoidable, some not at all. They happen, do not fear them. But, I have found life is undeniable better, if you try, intently, to avoid them.
I love you, my most beautiful daughter.
*Not lying to ourselves is the hardest part of this exercise.